I have posted previously. My marriage appears to be past the point of return; my wife has just canceled our last marriage counseling session. I am very sad but resigned. I am going to attempt follow Melissa's path, as she presented in her book, by working on my best self rather than pining over my failing relationship. My wife and I have many issues to work out: financial and legal (bankruptcy and house) and children (2 boys, 7 and 5). We have discussed separation and dissolution. Any advice for what to do next or how to start?