ADHD Bliss

Hello, Im not sure if this question has been asked yet but I am currently readin the ADHD Effect on Marriage book and I noticed it says that if the ADHD spouse refused that they have ADHD but what if the NON ADHD spouse dosnt beleve that they have ADHD and is just saying that its an excuse and that that is not why i do what i do? Now, i could give her pamphlets on ADHD but that would just make her mad. Can i just work on better my situation without her help?