Communication Fail

He's never done this before. I keep texting and skyping him like normal, but he rarely responds, if at all. The ONE day I got him on video chat for more than ten minutes, I asked him what was up, and he said 'we don't need to talk every single day.' I also told him that he hurt my feelings when he called me irritating, and he just shrugged and said 'well, sometimes you irritate me'. No 'sorry', or anything, just more of a brush-off than anything else. He plays music and videos while we skype, so I can't even say anything to him, I doubt he's paying any attention at all to a thing I type. It's like I don't exist. I asked him if he was excited about me visiting, and he goes 'I was, but then you asked if we were okay....' and I had to act like I was 'just curious', because he'd started again on the implying that I 'need him'. My grandfather recently died, and he was all 'oh, don't worry, I'll help you get through this. WE will get through this.' I was having trouble emoting about the death, I FINALLY cry, so I text him, and he goes 'atta girl'.

I don't. Understand.

What's happening to us? He just won't communicate. I feel ignored, unwanted, and more on eggshells with him than ever before, but he says 'we're definitely fine!'

If I try to talk to him about it, he just makes me out to sound like a needy brat. I'm the girlfriend, I thought I was allowed to wanna talk to him and spend time with him.

Is this an ADHD thing? I know this is a post that might not make sense, but I have absolutely no one I can talk to about this, and I can't deal with it by myself anymore.
I just don't know what to do. He's not one to keep quiet about something if it bugs him, at all, so I really don't understand.

 

I want this with him. I love him, really. And I'd fight for us if I knew what was wrong. I really didn't wanna type this last part. At all. But if this doesn't change...I can't do this anymore.