Conscientious spouse and success at work :(

The headline to this article caught my attention and unfortunately, I read it.  Basically, it links job success to conscientious partners who do their share of chores and child care.  I have watched my success at work crumble after one kid and even more after the second.  I've basically been booted out of the position I had for several years by a married childless male.  I'm taking more work home to do after the kids go to bed and having less time to myself.  This sucks