Good day Doctors.
I'm the non ADDer in this relationship. I've searched this website and forum and other places to learn "coping mechanisms", but to no avail. I really need to hear back with real and effective ways of coping, to help prevent flashpoints.
I had found a website that explains the seven most common flashpoints for spouses of ADDers. It is located at this website:
That website and this one portray very well some of the pervasive complaints from spouses of ADDers. But it does not provide any help for those married to them. I don't want to give up as so many others have but unless one learns how to effectively deal with this, what choice do we have? My own doctor asked me if I have a martyr complec for staying. I responded that I love my wife. But how far will love go without proper coping system in place ?
I look forward to real and proven ways of coping. Thank you to all who take the time to respond, it is appreciated.