My husband is quite certain he has ADD. His family physician is quite certain as well. And I am absolutely certain!
My husband considers going through the diagnosis process and beginning treatment but then does not. I am not completely sure why. I believe it is a mix of feeling like he knows already so why bother, and maybe some fear about losing the good parts of the ADD if he takes medication.
I want to be supportive of him in whatever he chooses, whether it is a real diagnosis and treatment, or learning coping and thriving strategies for himself. From the outside it looks like he would gain so much from treatment. I just think he would be so much happier.
I would sure appreciate any suggestions you have for talking to him about this - and if I even should talk to him about it. How have your spouses supported you in this....