In just the last few days I have come to realize that my spouse suffers from ADHD. Having been with him for a very long time, so many things make sense now. This situation has caused so much trouble and anger on my part. He is frustrated and doesn't understand me either.
Mostly I just don't know how to treat him at this point. He does not believe he has a problem, and I really can't imagine that he ever will. I feel like being nice to him is rewarding him for treating me badly and not taking my concerns seriously. However, all I want is to get along and be close. And I think that if he is ever going to admit to anything it is more likely to happen if he feels loved by me.
Opinions, please. I am the one who always does the apologizing and agonizing over everything, and this situation is killing me.