What do I bring to this marriage? 

Attitude? Openness? Approachable? Energetic to share in all phases of the marriage? 

The answers to these questions can identify if a person is doing the work it takes to have a healthy attachment in a marital relationship....In my experience (my own life, and that of my spouse) if we can't answer these questions in a positive light...Then the next thought that gets converted to words....Is usually one of two things...Repentance (I need to change and do better)...Or and Excuse ( I would be this positive working person But,................)...How does your answers read??

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