Non-ADD Spouse help - St. Louis

Can anyone recommend a counselor/therapist in St. Louis, MO who works with the non-ADD spouse?  We've been married 21 years and have become more roommates raising kids together than husband and wife.  I'm looking for a resource for my wife who can give her an outlet and possibly share wisdom and tips in handling our situation.  I'm good at making our conversations all about me, and I need to find a way to focus the help on getting her in a better place.  Please let me know if you know of anyone who could help.