Oh trust, where are you?

Trust.  My ADHD spouse cannot/will-not/does-not trust anyone. Not me.  Not our two children.  He seems to be always on guard, behaving in such a way that he thinks we are ready to pounce to take advantage of a slight lapse in his armor.

Accepting help from those who LOVE you and DO NOT want to control you is something I wish my spouse could learn.