Dating a couple of years after ADD divorce. Have been out a few times with a very decent man. He’s well educated, fit, intelligent and kind.
But after today I think he has autism.
He has very intense interests that dominate conversation. He socializes through activities but doesn’t seem to see friends over meals or have houseguests. He has no thoughts about holiday traditions. There’s a social awkwardness about him. He doesn’t know how to meet up, he acts strange when getting out of his car, like he hasn’t noticed I’m there though we’re alone in an empty parking space. There’s limited facial expression and a certain physical tension. There’s also something about his gait I can’t put my finger on. And he says he doesn’t understand people guided by their emotions.
How do I manage to pick these gifted neurodivergent men?
I like him but am too afraid to get into another neurodiverse relationship. Guess I’ll have to tell him at some point. But it seems impolite to presume somebody has a diagnosis. Could I ask him?
