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We used to be okay with minor issues, things bothered me but not to this extent.     He used to run every morning, he had structure.  Bedtime together used to be reasonable 9:30ish pm. He'd always text what are you thinking for dinner. He'd be supportive when I had some rough days at work. Can we ever get back there? 

 But life happened- family deaths, employment changes, covid, surgeries, new puppy and now things are exponentially out of control with a diagnosis of ADHD and OCD very apparent 

His time away from home is too much for me

Have been pondering on what was lost when the ADD marriage dissolved. 

Since I've been ill for quite some time now (it's not serious), I've been alone and incapable of most things I usually do. It hits me then, how an entire world is lost with divorce. The narrative. The stories we used to tell. The memories I'm not certain about anymore, since their meaning may have shifted.

In case you don't know my story, my spouse got a proper dx of ADHD and intermitted (spelling? but it's definitely chronic) depression earlier last year. However getting the diagnosis has not improved anything in our marriage. From March 2020 to today, it's been one roller coaster after another that I didn't sign up to be on. Through all this, we have a 'tween' (11 year old) boy who is an only child and has had a front row seat to all of this.

Hello, I am new here, and I came to this website because I am struggling greatly with my marriage. I don't think my partner, who has ADHD, has any idea about how difficult this is for me. We've been married for 24 years. He was first diagnosed in 2019, but then Covid struck and everything went out the window. He finally revisited the diagnosis in 2022 and found a therapist to work with as well as a psychiatrist who could prescribe medication. I've been doing my own work and I've come to a point where I just don't see how this relationship is possible anymore.

Hey all,

There's noway I can make this short, because it involves a lot of gray area and it involves my intuition which is not a tangle thing. There's also parts to this that involve a lot of my own past experience and life lessons both, for myself and other people, and, some things that might fall under the category of values which are not always definitely "right" or "wrong" but more, to each their own.

Key Issues

 * Hyperfocus and Obsessions

 * Lack of Emotional Connection

 * Frustration and Resentment

Key Issues

 * Hyperfocus and Obsession: His tendency to become deeply engrossed in activities for extended periods.

 * Lack of Emotional Connection: Difficulty maintaining a strong emotional bond due to his focus on external interests.

 * Frustration and Resentment: The emotional toll of his behaviors on our relationship.

I'm grateful for this community's support and understanding. 

Does anyone else experience this kind of hyperfocus with their ADHD spouse as a top symptom? 

I've struggled calling this behavior an addiction, an obsession or hyperfocus.

Comments deleted my question was answered.

I seem to be in the minority here.  I have ADD and have been married to my husband for 10 years with 2 kids and am currently 9 weeks pregnant. Neither of us are happy. We have both brought up divorce recently. I very much relate to the different forums posted by members except I'm relating to what I hear my husband say over and over. So its hard for me to read all the commentary and see how validating his reality is. You all seem to be at so many different stages of grief (lost, sad, angry, detached or divorced of your former torture).