My ADHD husband gets stressed or overwhelmed, then lashes out and gets critical of me, and expects empathy. I've told him how this behavior makes me feel, but he refuses to take responsibility for the things he says.
Anyone else experience something like this?
Hello,
I just wanted to look for support or help since I don't know how to handle the situation. My ADHD husband is not on medication, he's going to the gym to help him manage it. Doesn't seem to be working tbh... but anyway. My sister and mom are here for vacation, its been about a month now. They will be here for two more weeks. And whatever my sister does aggravates my husband. My sister is diagnosed, not managing ADHD, and no meds.
It finally ended and he finally decided to stop contacting me after 4 years of stalking me and pretending we never broke up in the first place. But the way I ended things to get rid of him I have to say I feel very guilty and ashamed of. I never wanted to hurt him. Me and my adhd ex were together for 6 years and my world revolved around him. Although it was constant fights and breaking up every other week he never wanted to let go.. he would create tons of new numbers and emails just to stay in touch.
I'll have to come back to this one since I'm currently at work. A recent post on verbal abuse caused me to pause and think about this topic for a moment. It required some research on my end because I realized I needed to know more about the topic of RSD.
When I first came to this forum around 8 or so years ago, I was challenged to ferret out my own anger which is what this post is all about: ferreting out anger. That, and being first introduced to emotional lability at that time, is what I assume, is now part of, or contained in, the same topic of RSD.
This week my ex husband's cheerful texts on things he needs me to do for children (who are with him) make me want to hurt him.
I don't like who I am at this moment. I practically hate the man. I hate that he acts as if he has no functional issues, at the same time counting heavily on me for the children. I hate that he pretends he hasn't used me and been dishonest to me and hurt me. I hate that he makes no attempt to make amends. I hate that he conveys he's so happy and relaxed now.
He has meltdowns for hours some of it feels like abuse. But is it just ADHD
Long story short, we separated in February. But he sometimes worked at the bar by our house, so he would come back for a day, then it was two days. Then we'd go to parties or events with the kids together and it was easier for him to just stay here, and of course we were getting along so much better than before. A house on our block came up for sale at a really great price. I thought it would be great for a place for me to live, he could have my (much larger) house and I could live there. Then we realized that we couldn't totally afford it unless we rented it for a while, until I was
ADHD partner and impulse issues.
Just learned from my now adult son how his father's behaviour negatively impacted his self esteem and mental health growing up.
I am Scrooge.....be back with more once the ghosts stop visiting.
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