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So, my husband, who loves gadgets wanted the new iPhone a few years back - I said I would be ok with him making the purchase because he promised to use it for tracking and making lists to help him manage his ADHD symptoms. Of course - we bought several apps to assist with this, and set up his plan so that he could also enjoy the phone, watch music videos etc. And as you can imagine- as I am sure most of you are already thinking - he NEVER used it for the reasons he stated he "needed" it.

I dont know whats happened lately - but my husband, who for 7 years has failed to follow through with SO MANY THINGS... and who has rarely pulled 'his weight' in the houshold - has been pulling off some seriously big time stuff recently. Out of the blue, about two weeks ago he just started... DOING things. Cleaning things. ????!!!!!?????  I wish I knew what changed!!!!!!  Its like a light went off in his head maybe?  I dont know!! Have any of you been through this with your spouse?

AAugh another failed relationship, over money and not knowing how to choose a battle.  I'm sick emotionally and fighting detachment...

I'm the spouse without ADHD and my husband does have ADHD. Our second child is now 6 months old and I am struggling with and engaged in therapy for postpartum anxiety and depression, but don't feel as though I have an outlet to speak to my husband about it. For example, I can be in a clearly non-functional state, curled up on the floor bawling, and my husband will try to comfort me, but get frustrated and leave because I am "ignoring him" or not responding in a manner he thinks I should.

This song ... for my specific situation.  It really is what is in my heart.  It might bring one of you comfort too:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ve2pS-jxXz0

Lyrics

Every word you're saying is a lie
Run away my dear
But every sign will say your heart is dead

Bury all the memories
Cover them with dirt
Where's the love we once had
Our destiny's unsure

Edited to fix formatting - I REALLY dont like how this forum works!!! UGH!

This song is REALLY amazing - for me it captures so much. I hope that if you listen to it and like it it reminds of you the strength you have inside to break your chains, fight the monsters and find the light of peace.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awvqIi427_A

Lyrics

A psychologist would tell me I am acting out the role that my primary family smushed me into.

My S.W. counselor told me I did not "grow up" ....  arrested development because I thought I HAD to be a good girl and obey (nearly everything/everyone).

An economist would tell me that my tendency to "play it safe" did nothing to increase my monetary well-being.

My old preachers said I must obey my husband, my parents, the 10 commandments AND the new testaments lessons of love they neighbor as thyself. 

Today, my H got me a glass of ice water to drink after my workout.  I didnt ask for it, I didnt expect it.  It was "flowers received, versus flowers requested" as Audrey Hepburn would say.  It was a kind aknowledgement to the hard work I am doing on my self.

A small gesture that means so much in its generosity.

Many people, I'd almost say most, people misuse or don't understand the true meaning of attitude.  I see so many people take and make statements that include the term "attitude" and they are very much out of context with the word  

I build and fly model airplanes. Being an aircraft pilot of any sort really teaches you the true definition of attitude. (Not to be confused with altitude) Lola!!!

I am VERY new to this forum,  but I have been reading a lot of posts today and I can see what others have been putting up with, and what I myself, have been through. AND I realise that firstly, we cannot cure or even change our spouses all that much. ADHD is a permanent condition, and to love someone who has it, takes time, patience and the skin of a rhino. My 9 year old grand-daughter has autism. She has learned to read and write, hold a conversation, wash and dress herself, tell the time, and lots of other things that the family didn't expect she would be able to do.