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I'm having another SMH moment concerning my sister. To be clear, a "Deb" is short for Debutante...and yes, I'm being monitored. 

If you recall, I mentioned my mom trying to put me through Debutante Training from lack of understanding how little boys operate. I definitely didn't operate that way! 

This is absolutely,  a perfect example of how there was a complete breakdown and disconnect in communication in my family unit. I'll the backstory as brief as possible to get to the point.

Hello, the following situation has befallen a friend of mine. I want to support her in any way I can. Here is what happened:

Hi all! (Don’t use emojis or the post won’t save and you will get a strange error, got it)

I’m AuDHD, diagnosed at 45 and now 48. I’ve spent the past 5 years learning about autism, but I think I missed how much ADHD impacted my relationships.

I discovered some curious things within my own capacities and strengths.  One of the more intersect things to note; despite having ADHD,  I'm not only a good driver, but also a safe one. That actually carries over into a lot of things I've done in the past. The most interesting part for me is that I may do crazy stuff but I rarely, if ever, get injured. That's seems counterintuitive but it's simply true. By all means, I should have a laundry list of injuries, broken bones, etc...but I don't?

As some of you know, my extended family relations are strained. 

One thing I struggle with is how to manage holidays and special days. Coming up are a parent’s birthday and Midsummer’s Eve (a day of general celebration here).

Since the parent doesn’t host anything for their birthday it’s up to me to acknowledge the date in some way. It’s the weekend and I’ll be working, so there’s not much I can do but make a phone call and deliver a gift some other day (they live 2 hours away). But I still dread this date and have for years.

I've spent some comaiderable time,  thought and self reflection, in determining my strengths and weaknesses, especially in the area of communication. I've recently re-educated myself with a different vocabulary to convey my own findings ( of myself ). This has taken a lot of research to find the accurate words to use. It's been a tough assignment but I think I've narrowed it down. 

My core values include:

authenticity

coherence

experiential truth

embodied honesty

precision

clarity

Its been some time since i have posted but i have been keeping updated within this community. Its lovely to see new usernames and shared experiences woth familiar postings. With that.... i have a bit of an update and not sure if im looking for advice or just need to share to see what others experiences are.    

Hi all,

I am bringing my best self in dealing with my husband (trying to be patient, not getting angry, explaining how I feel). He continues to tell me he will “fix” things he does not do, but inevitably he does not do it, apologizes, and then we go through the same thing in a week. My patience is definitely wearing thin. How should I explain to him this is corrosive to our relationship? He keeps telling me he understands, but the changes he said he would make never come. Am I being unrealistic to expect him to be an adult who is responsible for their household obligations?