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Annoyed, frustrated, and looking for support

My husband has had to come off his ADHD meds due to a heart condition.  His cardiologist was adamant.  We've done the research and it is indeed an issue that is fairly common,  but not talked about much. The problem is, as a late diagnosed person,  I've seen the wonderful changes the medication made and it literally saved our marriage.  Now, I know he knows it's a problem,  I know he feels guilty,  but it is incredibly difficult to go back to the way things were.

My partner of many years and the father of our two kids, has recently told me that he is not in love with me anymore. I am reading The ADHD Effect on Marriage and I see so much of that book in our lives and now realise the patterns which have contributed to us being here. But I had no idea at all that he was feeling like this and have been completely blindsided by it. 

Seven years ago I first learned my ADHD partner likely has ADHD.  I found this site and my reading of posts and the blog were immensely helpful to me, though even then I had no concept of the impact we'd experience in our own relationship.  I thought we were on top of it, my partner had insight and was open to treatment, and we'd be okay.  We wouldn't be "that" couple.  We are exactly "that" couple.  We joke that Melissa must have been hiding under our bed and in our closet, and wrote her books about us.

So my partner (Dx 3 years ago with adhd at 45 years old...hes 48 now) has, I believe, hit an all-time low. 

As I viewed my posts, it has been over 4 years since I joined this forum. My husband and I have been struggling since married (43 years) and now all has come to a head.

Just read such a good text about the benefits of letting go of control. 

The author described how believing in a friendly world as opposed to a threatening one can make your approach to most things less tense. Being loose in your mind, relaxed in your body, makes it possible to come across wonderful unexpected things in life. Rather than try to shape reality into a  preconceived idea of what’s desirable.

Well, I don't really know where to start, but here goes:

My wife of 20 years was diagnosed some months ago as being ADHD. My 18 year-old daughter followed suit with her diagnosis a couple of months later. 

It's been a month since I was officially notified "we aren't a couple" which the affects are many. Besides the grieving process and rest and recovery, I've been spending my time self reflecting and going inward to discover some more strengths ( more rare or unusual anomalies ) that help explain myself to myself. This has been a productive and healing pursuit at the very least.  It explains so much of what I couldn't never explain.