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My husband and I have had the same system for our finances for about ten years now.  We put all of our income into our joint checking account and each week an allowance of $30.00 is transferred to our own personal checking accounts.  This becomes our personal money that we can spend on whatever we want without question.  My husband just received two bonuses through his job, one for several hundred dollars and one for a couple thousand dollars.

Does anyone have a good response for when your ADHD Spouse uses having ADHD as an excuse?

My spouse and I are in the middle of buying a house. They were upset with me because I left a blank document that needed to be filled out at work for a day even though she takes much longer than that and needs me to remind them of basic things like getting paystubs and submitting expense reimbursements routinely and regularly and then uses ADHD as an excuse.

How do you guys manage to stay level headed with an adhd partner? I've struggled so much with mine we've been on and off and have gone through horrible fights. I have called it quits many times before but I do love him and am the only one who cares about his adhd and being understanding.

 One other question.. does anyone else's adhd partner find it hard to accept responsibility, they instead blame you or anyone else but themselves when they're wrong?

How would you react or what do you feel when your spouse tells you to grow some balls...

Does anyone have any advice on how I can help my husband see the ADD signs that I can see he displays? We have a 19 year old son who was diagnosed ADHD when he was 5 (so I understand ADHD challenges). My husband had no issues excepting our son's diagnosis. But when I bring up the topic that he may have it too, he brushes it off as a non-issue.

hey all, my spouse (recently dx ADHD last year) is really struggling and I find myself getting more and more frustrated with him. He has anxiety, depression (the chronic, hardcore kind) and ADHD. His brain spins out all day, every day. He's addicted to his devices. He doesn't exercise and he doesn't eat right and he doesn't look after himself. Most days I can't believe that his body allows him to function.   Every day for our house is ruled by his emotions and feelings and whichever of his challenges wants to rear its head that particular day.

I feel so ashamed, i am crying. My son is brilliant, fantastic, clever, ambitious......and a ball of energy i need to handle in the right way. Im exhausted, im running on empty. 

Inbetween a full-time career, solo parenting 4/5days of the week and remembering everything, i cant cope. Im full of anxiety and back on medication. 

I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year we're both in our late 40s. The potential for undiagnosed ADHD came to a head about six months ago. He went from "no one has every said I have ADHD" to listening to the book and really relating to it. So we're out of denial, which is good but nothing much else has changed. Where it is really hard for me is in terms of plans- he regularly breaks plans we have together- usually because he has double booked himself or just completely forgotten altogether.

Am so exhausted. Have been spending a week's vacation doing only things for children. It's been joyful, and I'm so happy spending time with them. But oh so tired now.

My ADD ex husband has had very low energy for years. I notice now in my week I've squeezed in several weeks' worth of child activities, hosting their friends, researching and preparing new activities, in order to compensate for the passivity I suspect will await the children in his house.