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As I read a lot of posts,I see the same issue of the non ADD spouse wondering when enough is enough.My question is a two part one and I am interested to hear what Melissa has to say as well as others thoughts.

At what point do you leave the relationship and when is it considered being codependant and "Unhealthy?"

I was married to my husband for five years.  I was not told by his family of any problems. After we were married I began to notice strange behavior.  He seemed easily frustrated, he was always on the go, he would fly off quickly, he always felt as if he was the lesser person.  After about a year I spoke with family members about him and they told me of his behavior as a child.  He had attempted suscide several times, he would leave school, he was then and still is now a loner.  His social skills are strange to me, He would tell me he felt intimated by me.  His sleeping habits are not good.

My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years.  We have two children...the youngest is autistic. My life is extremely stressful.  I strongly suspect that my husband has ADD.  Trying to get communicate with him is a very frustrating process.  He often leaves out a lot of the details when it comes to topics such as finances.  I'm left trying to fill in the gaps of what really happened.  His explanations often don't make any sense and sometimes he lies.  His memory is very poor...he'll swear up and down that he doesn't remember the details to recent conversations.

Hi. New user with a bunch of questions. I'll start with the main one -- are defiance and denial part of AD/HD?

I would like to get some advice on an issue that is causing great anxiety for me.I am living with my boyfriend and his biggest ADD problem is forgetting and misplacing things.It has raised a huge red flag for me in that,if I have kids with this man some day....is he going to be able to be a responsible father and help to raise them?Or will he forget about them and their needs to the point of jepardizing their safety because he "forgets" so much.What if he leaves them in the hot car one day,forgets to pick them up at daycare,forgets they are in the bathtub,etc,etc.

Hello, I am a twenty-three year old husband and father. I have an extreme case of ADHD. I was diagnosed as a child and have never grew out of it. Instead it seemed to worsen over time for me. As a child I had many nicknames such as the son of the Devil in fact my ADHD was so bad I was suspended and almost expelled my second day of Kidnergarden. Yes I took medications which did help some but it was too late I was already alienated from everyone including my own family which has lasted even to this day.

So here is the jist of my story I had been dating the girl i meet in colorado for 9 months we decided to move out east to pa so she could take over her family's business and i could continue my firefighting career out east. So we packed up and drove out east. We get here and things got hard. new place,people,area,no family,no friends, for me anyways. So lets go back a few years i was diagnoised with adhd when i was 7 and put on ridlin for a few years. I was in an IEP class all through school. (individual education plan).

Hi all. I am new here and I have a partner who has adhd. I have ocd. Together we have problems.

I'm posting here because I don't want to feel alone any more. I'd like to talk to others who feel the same feelings I do.

I have been married for 3 months, before we were married my wife and I were together for 4 years, The problem is that i can't stop being nasty to her and i feel ashamed and disgusted at myself for the things i say to her, I love her so much and don't know why i do it but if i have a bad day or something i just take it out on her and when we argue (usualy she starts an argument over something i haven't done) it always escalates into a huge fight and i say some aweful things, then afterwards i regret it and think there was no need for any of it to have happened.

My boyfriend has ADHD. We have been together for several months and he was open about his ADHD from the beginning. I decided to educate myself as much as possible in order to understand him. In general I think we have a very good and loving relationship - he is one of sweetest, gentlest, funniest people i know. He has also always been very open about the painful childhood he had, as well as unhealthy relationships before he met me. The issue now is that I'm discovering these past experiences effect him more than he wants to admit.