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Husband always defects his behavior onto me insisting I am the problem in our relationship. While he admits how he frequently acts is not appropriate, his only response is an apology and insistence that I am justifying my behavior towards him. How different it would be if he just took responsibility for his behavior and came up with solutions to actually CHANGE rather than just tell me he will immediately fix it (since that does not happen). I am so overdone with this attitude.

My husband  (ADHD and dyslexia at 46) said to me recently how he thinks Ive been a lot friendlier and Ive gotten back to more "me"and i dont seem to be as angry or taking things as personally. I wasnt really sure what to say back except thank you, because ive had a big inner turmoil for a bit and Ive really shut myself down when it comes to him and our marriage. 

i love my partner very much and for the last 7 years his ADHD has just gonnen to a new level that i want to scream i work and look after the house and look after him and our furkids but sometimes i just feel like im a cleaner house wife and everything else our conversations are so confussing we will talk about onething and before i even know it he is on 20 different subjects and i find if i dont say the right thing or i dont know it ends in this big fight im really trying to understand ADHD and im trying to find ways to communicate better but im just not getting anywhere please help me

Hi all, I’ve been going through the process of a breakup. My partner broke up with me six months ago, but as of two months ago he started reaching out  and we would meet up from time to time. We had agreed to be friends but that got muddied by lingering feelings although nothing physical happened. I was confused about the breakup and he essentially told me that my adhd symptoms were just too much. I can see he loves me but seems unwilling to work with me. I guess I just need some advice on the possibility of reconciliation.

My wife and I are trying to find a good Dr. to give a more complete diagnosis including spouse input. We're in the Catskills region of NY and would like to find someone that is local and takes insurance. Anyone have related experience or recommendations?

This is more of a general question than an experience. I'm curious if couples that have ADHD on both ends (both spouses) actually live more harmoniously in certain situations. I can imagine it could be a train wreck for some people but more curious for two adults that are further along in life (maybe that already have kids, a stable job, and live single on their own). I was thinking about this because mostly I see couples where it's always one-sided. A family friend met a woman recently who's also been diagnosed and he and I were talking about potential bliss or major red flags.

Hi, its my first time here and I wish I knew about this community sooner as I might have been able to get support and not feel so alone about my 16 year marriage issues. I'm a 41year old male with ADHD diagnosed twice now. 

I read the ADHD and Marriage Six Steps book 6 months ago and it opened my eyes to a lot of the effects of ADHD and my life. Almost every story/anecdote felt like I could have been the one to write it from my experience. There is several things that Im still struggling with that just isn't talked about.

Hi everyone i would like to just discuss what im currently going through and just wanted to see if I could get help.

Hello,

I’m looking for some advice please regarding my partner who has ADHD. We have been together for 4 years and moved in together 1 year ago, in that one year she must have shouted at me to leave calling me all the names under the sun, and how I’m so useless, a bad boyfriend etc. At least 4-5 times I packed my things and left. A few days to a week later she messages and calms down and we work it out and I go back, I know myself this isn’t right I shouldn’t go back, but it’s difficult when you love someone.

A quick ADHD tips and tricks post, something that came to my awareness that I thought was worth mentioning.

It occurred to yesterday, that there's something I learned to do a very long time ago ( intuitively ) or otherwise, that I started doing as a way to get things done. The reason I just now rediscovered this trick I do, because it's been ingrained into my "being" for so long ( long before I was ever diagnosed ) that it's something..."I just do".