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I would like to know why people afflicted with ADHD are sometimes averse to therapy.   I am at my wits end with my fiance and would absolutely try a last ditch effort to save our relationship as we have been together 8 years and engaged for 3.   But he refuses to go to therapy as he says he has done  "many cognitive therapy sessions" in the past.  He lives in an unfinished house and quite possibly a hoarding situation as well and will not take my advice to seek new  help, possibly new techniques afforded to those that suffer with ADHD.

I'm the one with this issue, not so much my SO. I'm coming to understand more and more, how this issue of mine is causing problems in my relationships. I realize it's from my past traumas  ( as a survival  strategy ) that was successful at one time.... so learning how to do it now in a comfortable way is hard, at least, because I'm not use to doing it. It's also not easy, when the other person reacts negatively to it.

I wish there were more resources for nons who need to co parent with ADHD co parents. 

I find the stress and sorrow of this arrangement (read non arrangement) is clouding my life, making it extremely difficult to find peace and joy living alone.

Ive decided to not ever try to manage my ex or what he does on his time with children. Instead I deal with a complete void that they disappear into every week. I overburden myself to squeeze in all I can for them on my weeks.

Before I begin...
I hope I am posting this message on the right forum. If not, I am, of course, happy to repost it elsewhere if necessary.

Where to start? As with every story, I think it’s best to start at the beginning.

I'm doing a bit of research on trauma survivors and ran across an article that listed the positives or strengths, of people who are trauma survivors.  If I had any question if I was one or not, this list pretty well defines my strengths. Almost ( if not exactly ) to a tee.

Hello;

My fiance was diagnosed Adhd last year.   We have been together 8 years and live apart.  His house is an unfinished mess for the past 12 years.   I   have lost all hope of him ever completing the renovation on his house.   We called off our wedding 2 years ago so he could focus on his health and medication.  I love him but am thinking my mental health cannot take this relationship anymore.   I have suggested he go for therapy to get help on how to tackle his house but he refuses. I don't know what to say or do anymore.

Another connection and realization.  

In therapy, anger is a topic I'm exploring.

 Along with that, triggers. But there's more to it than just ADHD. Not everything is ADHD but it can be related...correlations. In my mind, everything is inter-connected if you look closely enough.

Hello, I haven't been on this board for a LONG time.  But I had been very frequent writer here for years.  This site has been a big help for me to have a place to come and write out my venting and challenges with my ADHD husband.  In January of 2024 he died unexpectedly.  I was in denial and didn't trust my thoughts or feelings.  I didn't know what I thought or how I felt other than confused and gob-smacked.  We had been married for 50 years.

Getting back into therapy has already proven to be insightful. Getting to the elephant in the room sometimes is not always easy to do without some help.

Contempt was briefly mentioned, in connection to the past, and it immediately occurred to me what ( at least ) one trust issue has been. Trust, in respect to, men in general. ( men from my SO's past ).

A year after painful divorce from ADD partner I’m working on grief and bewilderment. This forum is vital for the continuously revolving thoughts. Thank you everyone for contributing to it.