When my husband and I fight, he'll disappear and not return till the next morning. This has been a new trend since the early summer, and I am at the end of my rope. I honestly feel like he looks for reasons to escape. I'll say one wrong thing, and that's it, he's got his cue... he'll take his handheld video games and a bottle of booze, and that's his evening's entertainment.
I am 37, have been dating a 35 year old man with ADD for the past two years. I was fresh out of a divorce from a sex addict who abandoned me and my very young children to a very young woman, overnight, literally, after many affairs and some crazy stuff. I waited a year to date, probably not long enough in retrospect, but my BF was very attentive at first, seemed to really love my kids, and supported me through the legal steps of my divorce (which had only just begun when we met... another mistake on my part to not get through it first).
I know that I am not speaking to doctors when posing my question but I think y'all are almost better in terms of pooled knowledge :)
Hello! I am new to this Website and had an epiphany when I saw Ms. Orlov and Dr. Hallowell on the TODAY SHOW. Hearing them describe the symptoms and the dynamics of a relationship, was like describing my marriage to my husband! We have only been married for 7 years, but it has seemed like an eternity of pain, anger and frustration. I had even told him in the past that it seemed like his affection ended for me on the very day that we came back from our honeymoon.
Hey everyone!
Not sure if I can post this but I'm gonna try... :)
Copy and paste the Youtube link below for a little ADHD humor! It's called "Old Spice meets ADD" lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ka59V4TFefM
Enjoy! :)
Having gone through all of the categories I am not seeing a great place to just post introductions, thus I will just post them here. Reason I want to do an introduction is it will help support future post. Many times I will read someone's post and find I really want to know their credentials. I don't mean to say their educational or career experience but rather their experience credentials. What is driving them to these thoughts, opinions and/or facts. Who is the person behind the curtain driving the show.
My husband is a great guy. His doctor is evaluating him for ADD. One problem we face is that he hyper focuses on his own needs, but dismisses mine and the children's when it comes to his time. He isn't as bad about housework, but I believe it is because of his history. It is my belief that he is overly-organized as a way of dealing with his ADD. For instance, I am a terrible housekeeper. I mean my house is not filthy by any means, but it tends to be a little cluttered. I am bad to leave the laundry in a pile after it leaves the dryer.
I'm curious and thought it might be helpful to start a poll blog to provide visibility regarding the demographics of the Non-Add Spouse population posting on this Website?
Here's my demographic
Age: 47
Gender: Female
Number of years married to ADD Spouse: 18
Number of children: 6 (blended family)
Number of years since discovery of your Spouse's ADD symptoms: 5
Separated or divorced?: Yes
If yes, how long have you been separated/divorced: 6 months
Which spouse initiated the Separation/divorce? Wife
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