Cares a Whole Awful Lot

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Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”

- Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

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“Cares a Whole Awful Lot”

When I was newly married I had this impression that marriages just “happenned.” Somehow two people who loved each other would be fine. The details of what that meant or how that would happen were more than a little fuzzy.

Twenty-two years later I, and the rest of my peers, are significantly wiser! To have a happy marriage you have to “care a whole awful lot” AND “work a whole awful lot” too if you want to keep things fresh and stay lovingly open-minded. You give when you’re not sure you can, you reassess when your partner says you’re out of line (even if you don’t want to) and, perhaps most importantly, you make connecting and loving a top priority in your life.

Today, in our bustling lives, I think “cares a whole awful lot” in a relationship translates almost directly into “be willing to put aside other things to focus on your partner.” This means, in some ways, you are giving the gift of your undivided time…at least some of the time.

What do you think “cares a whole awful lot” means?

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