ADHD & Marriage News - June 19, 2020

Quote of the Week

“Be more curious than furious.”

-Belinda Luscombe for Time Magazine’s article, How to stay in love during quarantine


There is a lot of together time these days and things can get scritchy.  Or worse.

Rather than arguing, why not practice a bit of ‘the art of curiosity’ to your relationship?  Curiosity is such an important element of a good relationship that I actually have added a segment on it to my couples seminar.

Curious shows you are listening.  And interested.  Furious shuts down a conversation.

Curious is a compliment.  Furious is a gut punch.

Curious is inclusion.  Furious is exclusion.

Curious is connection and partnership.  Furious makes you adversaries.

Could you be more curious with your partner?  If so, remember some basics:

  • Tone of voice is important.
  • Open ended questions will serve you both the best because they don’t assume you know the answer – or even how your partner is thinking.
  • Hear your partner’s full response, then add to the conversation with your own ideas.  Don’t ask your partner’s opinion, then tell them they are wrong (they are always entitled to their opinions!)

What would happen if you asked your partner 1 more question a day than you are now?  Not a question about logistics, but a question about them.  Why not try it?!


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For those in marriages impacted by ADHD

Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. can literally change your life! Find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD including free: Online treatment overview; Downloadable chapters of my books; A community forum with other couples facing similar issues; A large number of blog posts on various topics; Referrals.


Is your relationship in trouble? Consider my highly acclaimed couples' course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - This 8-session phone seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. The live session starts Fall, 2020.

Support Tele-groups - Be part of a community exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship: Non ADHD Partner Support Tele-group and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group.

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