-Belinda Luscombe for Time Magazine’s article, How to stay in love during quarantine
There is a lot of together time these days and things can get scritchy. Or worse.
Rather than arguing, why not practice a bit of ‘the art of curiosity’ to your relationship? Curiosity is such an important element of a good relationship that I actually have added a segment on it to my couples seminar.
Curious shows you are listening. And interested. Furious shuts down a conversation.
Curious is a compliment. Furious is a gut punch.
Curious is inclusion. Furious is exclusion.
Curious is connection and partnership. Furious makes you adversaries.
Could you be more curious with your partner? If so, remember some basics:
Tone of voice is important.
Open ended questions will serve you both the best because they don’t assume you know the answer – or even how your partner is thinking.
Hear your partner’s full response, then add to the conversation with your own ideas. Don’t ask your partner’s opinion, then tell them they are wrong (they are always entitled to their opinions!)
What would happen if you asked your partner 1 more question a day than you are now? Not a question about logistics, but a question about them. Why not try it?!
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