“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
What Lies Within
I LOVE this quote!
I am always amazed at the resiliency and strength of the couples I work with. We have, in each of us, the power to unleash this strength, even if we aren’t fully aware that it is there.
But perhaps you feel depleted and not very strong. This would be understandable, if you have been struggling in your relationship. The question becomes – ‘how do I find what lies within me?’ The answer varies from person to person, but I do see some patterns: • Respect begets effort. Respect yourself, and respect your partner, and good things are likely to start to happen • Take care of yourself. You cannot focus so much on your partner that you forget about yourself. You will wither. Instead, focus on what you need to feel strong, and any changes you can contribute to your partnership • Exercise regularly. It makes you feel stronger, both mentally and physically.
As you gain confidence, you will be able to access the strength that is inside you.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Next live session starts in April 2016 - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.