“Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.” - Albert Einstein
Success and Value
We are, Einstein is trying to say, defined by who we are more than what we do. An interesting idea coming from a man who is so well known for what he did!
In relationships impacted by ADHD it is too easy to fall into patterns that judge partners for what they ‘do’ or, often, what they ‘don’t do,’ forgetting all the positive things about who each partner is. I’m always thrilled when I ask “what do you love about your partner?” and given a long list of wonderful personal qualities…and saddened that those qualities are often overshadowed by ADHD-impacted lack of ‘doing.’
What are the characteristics that each of you has that makes you a person of value, rather than a person of success? If you aren’t sure, then this could be a great area of conversation for the two of you.
Is it time to recover the loving, adult closeness you so cherish? This multi-week seminar will get you going with practical and immediately useful information, tools, and weekly exercises designed to strengthen your affection and connections. Starts May 5th.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate. Next session begins Fall 2015.