“Who do you want to be? That, to me, is the essential question.” - Oprah Winfrey
Keeping True to Ourselves
When I work with couples we eventually move away from triage-like problem solving into “re-finding” who each person is. Particularly if either partner has become misshapen by anger, resentment or difficult interactions, this is a critical exercise. “Who do you want to be?” as Oprah Winfrey asks.
I have a great belief that the vast majority of us want to be good people – loving and caring – answering this basic question often leads, therefore, to taking personal responsibility for behaving in a more caring way towards one’s partner.
Have you asked yourself lately whether or not you are living in alignment with the “best person” you want to be? If not, now is as good a time as any…
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate.
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. Please take a moment to investigate the information available to you. It can literally change your life!