“Love is a verb.... Love in a long term marriage isn't something you say, but love is what you do.” - a friend
Love is a Verb
Every marriage contains significant tests of love and courage, and mine is no exception. I can write about relationships all day long, but what matters at our house is what I DO each day to make my life happier, and my relationship stronger. Love, truly, is a verb…and sometimes the actions needed to demonstrate my love take courage to implement. That’s okay. Sure, wouldn’t it be great if we were never tested? But then, is there such a relationship? Really?
How could you better act on your love? Ensure that love remains a verb at your house? Could you seek ways to be more patient or empathetic? Could you learn how to hold your tongue rather than critique? Could you spend more time getting your ADHD treatment optimized as a demonstration that you hear your partner’s distress?
It’s worth some self-reflection AND some loving actions to find out.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate.