“We cannot change the direction of the wind, but we can sure change the direction of our sails.” -Reader, Michelle Lorusse, in Oprah Magazine
Changing the Direction of the Wind
‘Don’t try harder, try differently.’ This is what I tell couples struggling with ADHD. In order to move forward, you need to do things in a new way – one that is known to work for adults with ADHD and their partners. Or, if you wish, change the direction of your sails. Otherwise, you are just trying to head into the wind rather than harness it to power you forward.
This ‘trying differently’ is all about doing things better…even if it seems as if you aren’t going at things quite as directly. But that’s okay…with the speed that your new sail direction provides, you’ll get to your goal sooner than if you simply continue to head directly into the wind.
The next live ADHD Effects In-Depth Couples' Seminar starts April 4th! "This course helped my husband and me tremendously. For the first time we didn't feel that either one of us was to blame. That allowed us to finally let go of some anger and start working on getting better. Without this first step I don't think improvement would be possible."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Next live session starts April 4, 2016 - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.