“While we are not trying to control our thoughts – we are cultivating an important insight: thoughts are not the world – thoughts are just thoughts.” -From a mindfulness training seminar
I don’t know about you, but I spend a lot of time thinking about what might happen in the future, or chewing over what did happen, trying to figure out how I feel about a past event. But here’s the rub. Just because I think something, that does not mean it’s real… or right. And neither are your own thoughts. Don’t believe me? Think about your partner. Is there something your partner thinks or feels (perhaps about you) that you think is completely inaccurate? Does the fact that he or she believes it make it real?
So here’s what that means. You shouldn’t believe everything you think. Because you might be just as off base as your partner is. Thoughts are just that…thoughts. Not the world.
That said, we all have a right to our own logic flow, thoughts and feelings. Respecting them is important…just don’t equate thoughts with reality. Sometimes it’s best to just accept the thought and move on.
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