“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” - Buddha
I have recently undergone a lot of soul searching about self-love…and have found it a wonderful experience. Because, quite frankly, it’s way too easy to spend a whole lot of energy thinking about how to better love your partner and forget about what it means to love yourself. If you find yourself in that situation, as I did, you are losing out.
For each person self-love means different things. My approach to self-love will likely change as my circumstances change, but here are a few things that I decided to do differently, right now, to love myself better: - Pay more attention to my body – lots more exercise; far better diet; resolve some health issues; dress in ways that make me feel good, rather than Boston frumpy (those of you who live here know of what I speak!) - Overtly de-stress my life – find the optimal work/life balance; exercise; learn to meditate; spend more time on personal connections - Learn to say ‘no’ - Live with a sense of adventure and gratitude. Seek out new experiences and knowledge. - Seek laughter and fun.
What could you do to love yourself better?
The next live ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar starts February 17th! Learn more here.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate. The next session begins February 17th.