I laughed out loud when I read this post! Because, truly, doesn’t life feel like this sometimes? Relentlessly throwing sh*t your direction until you feel as if you can’t take any more?!
But there is something in that old “whatever doesn’t kill me” adage – because every challenge does present an opportunity to learn and grow. The most important issue, I think, is what we choose to learn and in what direction we choose to grow. Because most often, we do have a choice. Do we choose to focus on the negative, or on our own or partner’s failings? Or do we choose to seek the positive?
I’m a big believer in the second approach. When we choose to seek the positive, we are more likely to end up with something we like.
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at my marriage and ADHD website, including: an online treatment overview; downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar. This eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and is given by phone, so anyone may participate.
Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship - This new seminar, designed to help couples become more intimate on every level, will be given by phone conference call and is tentatively set to begin on May 5th, lasting for about 5 weeks. If you are interested in this topic, please contact me, and I will email you when the final dates and syllabus are available.