|ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - December 19, 2012|
Heart to Heart
Tips for Thriving in your Marriage
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“Get in the habit of saying what you want rather than what you don’t want.”
- Diane Sollee
|Saying What You Want|
|More often than not, when I start working with a couple and ask them what they want, they immediately jump into a conversation about what things they don’t like about their relationship, partner or situation. If I ask them again to tell me what they want, not what they don’t want, I usually get silence. They’ve become so used to thinking in the negative that they literally can’t answer the question right away!|
Are you in the habit of thinking primarily in the negative? To find out, practice saying only what you want in the positive for 48 hours. I’m hoping that if this hard for you it will make you think twice!
An example: instead of saying “I don’t like it when you leave the kitchen counters dirty” you might say “It would make me happy if you would clean off the counters.”
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|For those in marriages impacted by ADHD|
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© 2012 Melissa Orlov