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“Don’t worry….be happy”

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Don’t Worry, Be Happy

A little bit of worry can be a good thing – it can push us to get things done faster, encourage us to be prepared for trouble…and sometimes it’s just a total waste of time. I was reminded of this earlier this week when I spent a mostly sleepless night worrying about things that each of my children was supposed to be doing. I was concerned one might forget an appointment and the other wasn’t aware of the urgency of his task.

Turned out I lost all that sleep over nothing. One didn’t forget, the other was well aware of the urgency and had already taken care of it.

In this case, I should have written the concerns down on a pad next to my bed as soon as I thought about them so I could LET THEM GO and get my much needed sleep. And, perhaps, realize that my kids are older now and don’t need all that mothering. In fact, these days when I “don’t worry” they will “be happy.” And if they had forgotten? Then, just like when they are out on their own, they would have needed to “clean up the mess” themselves. Another reason to “be happy” – at least for me!

ADHD Effect on Couples – Next Seminar Starts Sept 12

The next session of my phone seminar for struggling couples in which one or both partners has ADHD starts Monday, Sept. 12. Many couples have found this course helps them jumpstart their marital recovery. For more information about the course, go to this link.

© 2011 Melissa Orlov