|ADHD & Marriage - Weekly Marriage Tip - June 11, 2012|
Heart to Heart
Tips for Thriving in your Marriage
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“We don’t actually have much control over the way our kids turn out. Genes do a lot of the deciding, and the owner of those genes does most of the rest. Some kids let parents have a great deal of influence; others don’t. Either way, people blossom when we love them, not when we worry about them. Worry just teaches worry.”
- Martha Beck
Though this quote is about raising children, it applies equally to adult relationships. The word “worry” comes from the word “wyrgan” (Old English) meaning “to strangle.” And that is just what worry does.
Here are some of the mistakes that your worry might encourage in your relationship:
I’ve seen all of these responses in couples I’ve worked with.
Worry is natural, but it is not neutral. If you are a worrier, try to focus your energy on showing love and support. “Self-talk” to yourself that “this worry isn’t getting me anywhere…what can I do right now that will alleviate my worry?”
Some ideas include:
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© 2012 Melissa Orlov