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“If you think education is expensive, try ignorance.”
          - Derek Bok, former President of Harvard University

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Education is Cheap

Sometimes I hear from couples I work with that one or the other spouse is “unwilling” to learn about ADHD, depression, anxiety, learning disorders or some other health issue that directly impacts that couple’s relationship. When I come across this point of view I try to be empathetic – it’s often part of a larger issue, for example an ADHD spouse who is afraid that learning more about ADHD means that he or she will be blamed for marital problems.

However, though I’m empathetic, I also try to point out two things: First, learning about something (for example, ADHD) doesn’t commit you to a specific path (such as taking medications). All it does it make you more informed of the options before you. Second, NOT learning can be “expensive.” Remaining in a status quo that isn’t working can cost you your marriage.

Great resources for learning about marital and mental health issues abound. Take advantage of them!

P.S. For some good resources, please visit my ADHD and Marriage Resources section.

© 2011 Melissa Orlov