Non-ADHD Partner Support Groups with Melissa Orlov and Julie Heflin


There's a lot to work through and think about when you are married to a partner with ADHD.  These support groups for non-ADHD partners are given by Zoom and led by Melissa Orlov or Julie Heflin.  Each session focuses on one or two topics a week that are chosen by group members for in-depth exploration.  Participants support each other, explore their biggest issues and most pressing problems, and get advice from the group leader - and from each other - each week.  The objectives of the support group are to: have you be part of a community of people exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; and find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.  Group leaders and other group participants will help you develop strategies for finding satisfaction and happiness.

Logistics and Dates


The groups are run via Zoom video call and last one hour.  The group itself, or the group leader, picks a topic for the day, or requests the group discuss a recent development in one person's life.  The groups are limited to 8 participants (repeat groups) or 9 participants (new participant groups) - enough people to get a good conversation going, but not so many that you can't speak up.  It will be recorded for the confidential use of participants in case they have a conflict.

There are six groups offered starting in October, 2021.  There will be three groups for those who are continuing from previous groups, and three for people who have never done a support group with ADHD&marriage before:


TUESDAY, 7:30PM EASTERN will meet on seven Tuesday evenings on the following dates:  October 12, 19, 26, (break), November 9, 16, 23, December 7  THIS GROUP IS FULL

WEDNESDAY, 9:00AM EASTERN will meet on seven Wednesday mornings on the following dates:  Oct 20, 27, November 3, 10, 17, December 1, 8  THIS GROUP IS FULL

WEDNESDAY, 11:00AM EASTERN will meet on seven Wednesday mornings on the following dates:  October 20, 27, November 3, 10, 17, (break), December 1, 8  THIS GROUP IS FULL

RETURNING PARTICIPANT GROUPS (Only for returning participants, led by Melissa Orlov)

THIS GROUP WILL TAKE BOTH RETURNING AND NEW PARTICIPANTS:  MONDAY, 7:30PM EASTERN will meet on seven Mondays on the following dates:  October 25, November 1, 8, 15, 22, (break), and December 6, 13

TUESDAY, 11:45AM EASTERN will meet on seven Tuesdays on the following dates:  October 26, November 2, 9, 16, 23, (break), December 7, 14  THIS GROUP IS FULL

THURSDAY, 1:00PM EASTERN will meet on seven Thursdays on the following dates:  October 21, 28, November 4, 11, 18 (break), December 2, 9  THIS GROUP IS FULL


Melissa Orlov is one of the most respected experts in how ADHD impacts relationships in the world, known for her practical, even-handed approach to how to overcome the struggles of ADHD-impacted relationships and is the author of two award-winning books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.  She has been a marriage consultant since 2007 and is known for the quality of her seminars and support.  For more information see the 'About' section or her CV.

Julie Heflin has a masters in mental health and personal, as well as professional, experience working with adults with ADHD.  You will find her a nimble, calm, and attentive presence in discussions around the issues that non-ADHD partners face in their relationships.  For more information, see the 'About' section.

Registration and refund policy

A 7-week session costs $259.  Groups are limited to 9 people for new groups and 8 for returning.  We will remove the registration button when the group is full.  Full refunds are provided up until 48 hours before the sessions begin.    

Monday, 7:30pm New and Returning participants


Tuesday, 11:45am Returning participants only


Tuesday, 7:30pm New participants


Wednesday, 9:00am New participants


Wednesday, 11:00am New participants


Thursday, 1:00pm Returning participants only



Testimonials about Non-ADHD Support Groups

"It's been so valuable to hear everyone's perspective..."

"This group has been so supportive and validating.  I've found the insight and ideas really helpful, and being heard is wonderful."

"The group gave me more hope, and the energy to continue the work I know I need to do to improve my marriage."

"It can be lonely living with an ADHD partner.  This group has been an invaluable source of comfort."

"The non-ADHD partner support group helped me come back from the brink of divorce and reclaim a loving relationship. Being in conversation with Melissa and with other people navigating similar challenges helped me not only better understand my partner and how ADHD impacted our marriage, but more importantly, understand what I was doing to trigger our tensions and how I could let go of control and show up more powerfully in our marriage. I am sure I will continue to draw on the wisdom and insights from these groups for years to come."

"We were in a tough place...I couldn't wait until Thursday nights."

"A comfort.  Thanks to everyone for the openness and validation!"

"It helps me do better with what I'm working on."