ADHD Effect on Couples Expanded Agenda

Full Agenda with Learning Objectives

All sessions are from 8:15-9:45pm EST.

By phone, with full presentation materials


Session 1 - 1.5 hours

What Does ADHD Look Like in Your Practice?  An Introduction to ADHD in Relationships
Melissa Orlov

Pre-reading:    4 case studies
Homework – The ADHD Effect on Marriage pp. 1-117

Session learning objectives – participants should be able to:

  • Identify the obvious and subtle indications that a couple may have ADHD impacting their relationship
  • Anticipate and respond to common reactions in both partners when the subject of ADHD is introduced into the conversation
  • Identify the 12 behavioral patterns that ADHD introduces into relationships
  • Identify the top ADHD-related issues for any given couple

MONDAY, APRIL 30, 2012

Session 2 – 1.5 hours

What Couples Therapists Need to Know about the Research on ADHD
Couples Therapy Best Practices When ADHD is a Factor
Kevin Murphy

Homework – selection from ADHD in Adults: What the Science Says
Robin and Payson – The Impact of ADHD on Marriage – 4pp

Session learning objectives – participants should be able to:

  • Apply the most current research available on adult ADHD to their marital counseling
  • Discuss important research statistics with ADHD patients, and select appropriate additional resources when needed
  • Identify and apply best practices for counseling couples in which one or both spouses has ADHD


Session 3 – 1.75 hours

Placing Your Couples into the Three Stages of Recovery
Helping Couples Deal with Anger, Frustration, Denial, Hopelessness and Shame
Melissa Orlov

Homework – The ADHD Effect on Marriage pp 118-164

Session learning objectives - participants should be able to:

  • Describe the three stages of recovery, and the specific treatment implications of being in each stage
  • Place any client into the proper stage of recovery, and begin appropriate counseling based upon that placement
  • Utilize specific techniques for helping clients diminishing anger, frustration, denial, hopelessness and shame

TUESDAY, MAY 15 (Date to be confirmed)

Session 4 – 1.5 hours

Diagnosis, Medication and Treatment of ADHD
The Pitfalls and Pinnacles in a Marriage with ADHD
Dr. Ned Hallowell
Sue Hallowell, LICSW

Homework:  Delivered from Distraction – pp. 28-58, 115 – 126, 205-259

Session learning objectives - participants should be able to:

  • Describe the latest information about how ADHD is diagnosed and be able to provide clients with specific advice about getting a proper diagnosis
  • Select specific resources for detailed information about ADHD treatments
  • List the medicinal options for treating ADHD and be able to effectively help clients develop the right questions to ask their doctor about treatment
  • Identify and anticipate the most likely pitfalls their couples will encounter, as well as specific steps for helping their couples avoid those pitfalls


Session 5 – 1.5 hours

Taking it To Your Practice:  The Delicate Balance
Tools for Therapist and Couple Use
Melissa Orlov

Homework – The ADHD Effect on Marriage, pp 165-227

Session learning objectives - participants should be able to:

  • Utilize at least three specific strategies for helping their couples move beyond their mistrust of each other’s past interactions
  • Be able to explain and to effectively train couples to use: verbal and physical cues; learning conversations; “tabled” decision making; de-escalation techniques; external structures; chore tracking worksheets; validation tracking worksheets; boundary development charts; memory tools and more



Session 6 – 1.5 hours

Major Issues Recapped
Your Questions

Session learning objectives - participants should be able to:

  • Identify, talk knowledgeably about, and respond to the major issues that couples impacted by ADHD face
  • Discuss their own cases and create specific work plans for helping couples move forward



Optional - 1.0 hour

Your Cases Considered
Melissa Orlov

Bring your cases to discuss with Melissa Orlov, or just listen in