About the Experts

About Melissa Orlov

Melissa OrlovFounder of ADHDmarriage.com, Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, a top expert in how ADHD affects relationships, and an award-winning author.  She has been writing and speaking about the topic since 2007, researching it since 2005.  She teaches couples, therapists, counselors and coaches about how ADHD impacts relationships and offers private counseling to couples who wish to improve their ADHD-impacted relationships.  Her very popular couples seminar (by phone) has helped many struggling couples turn their relationships around.  Melissa blogs for Psychology Today, at this site, and guest writes for many others.   She wrote the Your Relationships column for ADDitude Magazine from 2008-2014 

She is the author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage, which was awarded "Best Psychological Book of 2010" by ForeWord Reviews.  Her latest book, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD, with Nancie Kohlenberger won three book awards, including best psychology book of 2014.

Melissa has been interviewed frequently on the topic of ADHD and marriage by organizations as diverse as the New York Times, CNN, and the American Psychological Association Monitor (more complete list here).

Ms. Orlov's hobbies include road biking, singing and playing the cello.  

Melissa's CV


About Rachel Ban, MSW, LiCSW

Rachel BanRachel Ban (she/her) is a clinical supervisor and therapist in a couples therapy group practice, and supports individuals navigating ADHD dynamics in their relationships in her private practice. She brings her extensive professional training in evidenced-based couples therapy and ADHD marriage dynamics, and personal experience in a former long-term ADHD impacted relationship to supporting non-ADHD partners in groups. 

Rachel is committed to supporting all relationships, inclusive to all genders and sexual orientations. Her clients appreciate her calm, compassionate and incisive approach to difficult moments, and her fierce intelligence. Rachel is a graduate of Smith College and the University of Southern California School of Social Work. She is a mother to two kids, three cats and a very large and irrepressible puppy. She enjoys swimming with her kids, bringing friends together over a delicious meal, having her hands in the dirt in her garden, and hiking in national parks with her partner.


About Lee Crespi, LCSW

Lee CrespiLee Crespi, LCSW is a psychotherapist in private practice for over forty years who specializes in working with couples where ADHD is an issue.  She is trained in multiple approaches including Emotionally Focused Therapy and Collaborative Couples Therapy as well as having studied with Melissa Orlov on the ADHD Effect on Couples.   She is a graduate of SUNY StonyBrook School of Social Welfare and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy.

As a clinician and teacher she is known for her warm, compassionate style and her sense of humor.  She and her wife have been together for 45 years and have one adult son.  She is also a watercolor artist, a swimmer,  and a dog lover.



About Cameron Gott, PCC

Cameron GottCam, a thought leader in positive accountability, effectively uses coaching techniques to support some of the most successful professionals and entrepreneurs challenged by ADHD.  Cam has been coaching ADHD individuals for 20 years, supporting clients to make the changes they want to make. Cam co-hosts the podcast Translating ADHD. Cam also mentors ADHD coaches-in-training and speaks and teaches on a variety of topics including ADHD, coaching, leadership, accountability and his AEC Model for Change.

He was certified through The Coaches Training Institute and co-develops content and trains coaches through Coach Approach for Organizers with Denslow Brown and teaches for Laurie Dupar’s IACT-C coach training group. His Global Creative blog addresses the challenges and opportunities facing creative entrepreneurs and leaders and how mastering one’s life starts with understanding one’s brain. He lives outside of Charlottesville in the shadow of the Blue Ridge Mountains with his wife of 25+ years and their two children.


About Julie Heflin, LGPC, NCC

Julie HeflinJulie Heflin is a graduate of The George Washington University Graduate School of Education and Human Development with a master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. Her warm, direct, and engaging style combined with her ability to distill complicated relationship dynamics make her an excellent choice to lead non-ADHD support groups. In addition to her work with ADHD & Marriage, Julie provides individual counseling to young adults managing the impact of ADHD in their lives.

Julie has a passion for running, scuba diving and gardening. She and her husband of 35 years live in Maryland and western New York. 


About Christina Veal

Christina Veal is a communications specialist who loves the blogosphere and has enough ADHD in the family to be interested in working as Melissa's right hand person.  She searches the internet for content she thinks will be of interest to our readers and helps keep everything up-to-date.  She is a graduate of the University of Connecticut and has a passionate interest in tennis.  Ms. Veal lives outside Boston.


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