Hi. I'm really struggling with this issue, as I do off and on. I often read about people with ADHD that "this is who they are. Other people need to accept this." I accept this statement to a certain point and I realize that to the extent I don't accept it, that's my problem. But perhaps even more of a struggle for me is the following: I am who I am. Can my husband accept that? Even more important, can I accept it? Is it OK for me to say, "I'm a very sensitive person. I don't want to think of myself as a person who is vulnerable. But I am. I don't want to think that I've been hurt in ways that are very hard for me to overcome. But I have been hurt and I really don't think I can get over them." And if it is OK for me to say these things, how can I actually reach that point where I accept that I'm not the perfect person who can deal with anything that life with a spouse with ADHD throws at me? I think the upshot of this is that I don't think I can stay married to a man with ADHD if it means trying to make myself into a person that I'm not.