Thought my 8 yr old son had dyslexia until recently diagnosed with ADD. I now know I have it and can recognize the family history. In addition, I am an ACOA. I feel double whammied and don't even know where to start. I've been going to ACOA mtgs for six months and they are helping. But I now clearly see many issues with my marriage. Where do I start since there are many similarities between ACOA and Add? Do I see a psychiatrist? Should I get a diagnoses first? Do I start stimulants? Do I ask my husband to go to therapy? (These last six months I think he is trying to support me but remains quiet and doesn't have much to say.) i also recognize many ACOA and ADD traits in him but when i mention these to him i think he thinks i have really lost my mind. We have just started our son on meds and it has been stressful for the both of us. Lost and confused and I don't know where or how to begin dealing with these recent discoveries.