When the children were young and now with our grandchildren, I now see that ADD may be playing a part in an activity that was irritating to me but I didn't know what it was. Now I am seeing that he acts like a child when he is with children. He is the roughest, loudest, most baby-talkish of the group. He squeels and giggles and things ALWAYS get out of hand with someone ending up crying. Then H stomps off saying it wasn't his fault and that I am crazy for being concerned. I must decide each time how much I can tolerate. How much I should expose my grandchildren to and when to tell him he is being inappropriate. There are enough kids here to be kids with each other. What the family needs is a model to follow, not a teaser/clown. I had an uncle who was like this and frankly I was afraid of that uncle....too teasy. I can't seem to talk to H about this without his being offended. But then I guess he will just have to be offended because when there are children around, he becomes a beligerent child. I know it must not feel good when someone tells you that you are not acting appropriately but if it was me, I know that I would listen and consider if maybe I should make some changes. But H never alters and clings to his right to act the way he wants to.