When he is feeling angry about something I am saying to him, my ADD husband has said for as long as I have known him that "You are just like your mother!" He says this in a very angry and despising way. After that he tells me to "Shut up!". He does not like my countering him, however I do it.
It gets to me how he brings my mother into it as she has many qualities I don't like and find abnormal and intrusive. Ironically my husband is very like her. But it upsets me to be told I am like her.
Does anyone else experience this sort of thing, including have your partner try to shame you?