ADHD and apparent selfishness


I guess my frustration is this:  it seems I do so much for my husband cook, clean, organize, pay all bills, take care of car, work, etc.  and my husband doesn't do anything to demonstrate his feelings such as a piece of jewelry, flowers, or back rubs (they are work 2 him), helping me extra around the house, or anything.  I guess my question is are people with ADHD selfish or is it part of the disorder?  I only see supposed depth of caring or feelings if I try to leave, then he cries, declares he will do anything for me, tells me he cant live without me, etc.  Says hes not good at showing his feelings, but to me its even his caring that hes not good at showing.  Is this part of ADD?