ADHD and Marital Problems

HI, I'm new to the forum.

It feels great to learn that there is a place to come for support and understanding when dealing with ADHD and how it can affect your daily life.

I have been married for 8 years and have two little boys. I married the best person I have ever met but for the last year my ADHD has caused a major rift between my wife and me. This has led to many arguments usually caused by me and I said out of impulses many hurtful things that I knew at the time that I didn't mean. This understandingly has caused major problems in my marriage and I have been separated from my wife for the last 3 months. Unfortunately,  I cannot take my words back and have hurt my wife very much. I have hurt her so much that recently she told me that she didn't love me anymore due to the person that would show up from time to time hurting her. I'm so sad that my wife feels like this and all because of my hurtful words and actions. I have always been crazy about my wife but never really realized how my ADHD was hurting our marriage. I will always be sorry for what I put her and want her to be happy.  I'm looking for any support or some resources on how to control my impulses and for me not to lash out when I'm in a vulnerable spot.

Thanks and I look forward to any comments that any might have.