ADHD and Money issues...

So, at this point my husband and I are doing well with his ADHD however, I have been beginning to notice a pattern.

My husbands mood and our overall happiness in our marriage directly correlates to if he's had a productive and financially rewarding week. My husband is essentially the stay-at-home parent and he also has a business that he runs from our home. I would say that he is profitable and does a great job but to be honest I do not know because he keeps all of his figures to himself. I couldn't tell you how much he makes or spends. I do know that our mortgage is paid and that is his bill to pay.

Anywhoooo...I guess my question is when money is tight does that cause your spouses ADHD to be worse?

It's as though my husband goes from a loving, willing and emotionally there partner when money isn't an issue and then morphs into a rage-o-holic, monster when things go wrong that cost him $.

YES...YES...YES! I will go

YES...YES...YES! I will go even further and say that since my husband lost his tele-communting job making 6 figures and had to take a job locally making 1/2 of what he used to (over 2 years ago) he hasn't been the same person.

When there is money to go out and eat, buy fun 'stuff', give him some cash to carry around and spend as he sees fit then he is MUCH MUCH happier. He withdraws, does not want to leave the house, and never seems to be in a good mood anymore and I truly feel there is a correlation between that and the reduced income. We still have the same bills, only 1/2 the income so we are always TIGHT and it has changed everything.

He does not get mad...he just withdraws.


My husband also does the withdraw thing but he tends to get mad and rant saying he's a failure and sometimes he blames me for not giving him enough support to make money.

The unfortunate thing is that his money is never consistent. Some and most months he makes $3000 or more and that pays for the house payment and anything he wants to buy for himself. However some months he makes less than that and can only afford the house payment. Those months are rough emotionally in our home and frankly I wish he would save some money from a really good month instead of spending every last penny which would balance out the less so good months... Yeah, right...that would be logicial!