ADHD and Risk Taking

My husband and I have been married for 13 years and he was diagnosed last summer with adult ADHD. He said he first noticed his ADHD in second grade. Ever since I have known him he has always taken risks. I never realized how much it would bother me until it became a financial burden to our family. I dealt with it much better before we had kids, but now it is getting out of control. He has always wanted to have his own business. I can't even tell you how many different business ventures he has tried. He claimed bankruptcy the second year we were married for a business that failed. Here we are several failed businesses later and he still wants to take out loans to start up new businesses. I say businesses because it is never just one at a time. He currently has 3 or 4 ideas for businesses he wants to pursue. Last spring he took out a line of credit without even talking to me. The only reason I know this is because he left a receipt for an auction item that he purchased using this line of credit. When I confronted him he told me he took out a loan to buy things to fix up and resell. He has now spent $6,000 on businesses he wants to pursue with no returns. This is extremely frustrating to me since I am the one paying all the bills. The thing that is even more frustrating is that he took out the loan behind my back. He tells me not to worry about it and it has nothing to do with me since it's in his name. I am constantly telling him that everything he does not only affects him, but also our family. He plans on starting one of the businesses this summer while I am home with the kids. He told me he doesn't even expect to break even, but he will be able to pay part of the loan back. When I tell him that I am not comfortable with him taking loans, he goes ahead and does it anyway. He says that I am "risk adverse" and he is not going to change. The only reason he has been able to take these risks is because I have had the steady job. I am becoming extremely resentful for always having to be the responsible one. He has never even acknowledged or thanked me for the opportunities he's been given to pursue all these ventures while I'm the one paying the bills.