I've read so many posts on this forum about behaviors that hasn't got one thing to do with ADHD...In my dealings and study of the effects of ADD/ADHD (a busy or fast mind) it makes it hard for children and adults with it, to think all the way through a specific thought. Many seem to experience an urgency or fact void that cause's a quick action. Or in some, the opposite, a withdrawal, or zoning out... In most cases it isn't chronic, but can have that appearance in some. But, it seems to come and go, making it as unexpected to them at times as it does to the bystanders.. Thus comes the signs and actions that are connected to this phenomenon. In some there is few to no outward signs, but others can deal with many effects...Poor listening skills, Distractibility, Restlessness, Time management difficulties, Many become adrenalin junkies, Many show impatients, and can be quick to anger. I think much of this anger is based on the inner frustration of living with ADD and also the feelings of being misunderstood, and/or being judged wrongly. Many non-adders feed this anger by assigning motive and judging intent, when daily having to face these unpleasant actions. Which, snow balls because of the inability of a fast mind to rationalize and put it into perspective. A person with ADHD is just as shocked at times by what they just did or said (blurted out) as the bystanders. Looking into their own hearts and minds for the answers and finding none can bring on hopelessness for them. Which can cause depression and denial. (They like the non's just want it to go away) At this point the more insecure and immature will try to live up to their feeling of worthlessness.
ADHD is not an excuse, nor is it the cause for an adult who decides to live an Adulterous or Fornicating lifestyle or any other open sinful acts...Many who deal w/ ADHD are believers who are filled with the spirit of The Most High God...And are faithful loving Mates....So many of us have used the Term ADHD as a broad brush to cover over a spouse who is lost, and living an openly sinful and degrading lifestyle...If I was being subjected to this behavior...I would leave today.