Hey all, so my spouse has now confirmed he has ADD and not ADHD like we had both originally thought. And I feel so....lost? As in, it was a bit surprising that he doesn't have ADHD but I'm not sure it will really matter in the long run, there's now a lot of work to do on it and I'm not sure which way to turn. I mean, all the things I've learned about ADHD...do they still apply? I know the next step is to push for couselling for both of us, I think it's a deal breaker for me, but I also feel confused about that too. Not sure if that is the right next step or what. I know no one here can tell me what to do (as much as I would like that to be honest), but what have others done when a diagnosis finally (!) happened and now it feels anti-climatic or just, deflating?
On a side but relevant note, I have been hearing the suggestion of the non-ADHD spouse (me) about reading Boundary Boss and I finally got my copy and I'm super excited to get in to it. But that also feels overwhelming too like that is not what I should be doing? (my therapist would kill me if he heard me now... 'coulda, woulda, shoulda')
Anyone else ever get a different outcome/diagnosis they weren't expecting but it didn't seem to set the world on fire and what next steps did you take? Just curious.