After intimacy treatment

So I have noticed a pattern. Each time I have sex with my ADHD husband, he treats me horribly afterwards and the next day. I have reached out to other spouses of partners with ADHD and they experience this also. Why does this happen? As soon as I let myself be vulnerable he gives me this treatment in return (which makes me feel like a piece of trash) and expects me bounce back emotionally and of course physically. Why would anyone want to continue this cycle and have sex only to be treated this way? This is why I do not like to have sex with him, not because of other ADHD symptoms. I keep reading not to take things personally, but this one behavior I cannot push aside and ignore. I deserve love and respect after I allow myself to connect with him. I can find lots info about hyper-sex drive and everything else but I can't find any information on this anywhere.