My husband has been staying at his brother's house for the last two weeks, and will soon be staying in a house he bought several months ago. All I feel is a profound sense of relief...the constant anxiety is easing a little bit every day and I actually feel optimistic about the future for the first time in years. Although my children are all still at home and I have to deal with my Sjogren's Syndrome on a daily basis (it's not fun), I feel GOOD. Twenty six years of living with his ADHD and OCD have taken such a tremendous toll on my physical and mental health that it's almost like the air in my home has gotten lighter. Imagine that. :)
I truly believe that this arrangement will be permanent as my husband seems unable to strip away the denial and rationalizing of his behavior. His world is so narrow and illogical that I can't live in it anymore. There's no room for anyone else in his reality. It's so sad.
Still....I can see a light at the end of the tunnel...and it's very bright. :)
Wishing all of you better days too.