Am I Crazy??

Hello, I am new here and am glad that I found this forum.  How do you handle disagreements with someone with ADHD?  My H is ADHD and I am at the point, after 5-years, of avoiding all disagreements with him because some how they always get turned around to how I am the overly sensitive unrealistic person in the relationship as I sit there in tears after being told to go F*** off.  Of course I'm going to be sensitive to being told that by someone who says that they love me and whom I deeply love.  Sometimes I feel as though maybe I AM the crazy sensitive one who is too easily hurt.  But when I talk to my close friends about it, they are all in agreement that this is not normal.  Please help!!