Help! I have been married 21 years and my marriage is awful. My husband has no focus! I told him years ago to get tested and if it was ADHD, at least we can build a toolkit to cope and then hopefully manage. He refused but now with yet another blow up on his part, now he thinks he is ADHD because I told him I have one foot out the door. And his behaviours are getting worse. I am used to asking for things 3 or 4 times, doing things myself. I have every feeling described for a spouse of ADHD. He has most behaviours of ADHD. The real problem though is he has a huge lack of accountability. Not his fault, never his problem. And now with this discovery that he may have this disorder, I am a nag! I am so angry and tired. He is 47, I am 45. Is it too late to start this now?